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Let’s teach our daughters THIS.

Daughters are so much different than sons aren’t they?! There’s a much different relationship between a mother and a daughter than there is between a mother and her son. We tend to be harder on our daughters. We push them and challenge them at times when we might react a little less stern to our sons. Why is that? We see OURSELVES in our daughters. We want them to be better than us. So we push.

How do we push them to be better?

Should I start singing the song? R-E-S-P-E-C-T. You know the one. The one you start singing in the car with the windows down… or maybe it’s the one that you sing to your kiddos when they say just the wrong thing. Either way, that song speaks some truth.

If my two girls learn anything from me, I hope it’s that they learn how to respect. Respect others, respect their parents, and how to respect THEMSELVES.

Respect starts with decisions. Choices. Choosing what to say and when to say it. Knowing when to hold back and when to tell it like it is.

Our daughters need to know how to make choices.

Teaching them how to stop, think about the consequence of their choice, and then move forward with the best possible decision is how we grow young girls into strong women.

This. World. Needs. Strong. Women.

Amen.

And when their choices aren’t the best, learn from them. Pause, breathe, and reflect. They need to know how to think about others. Consideration. Understand perspective. When people are unkind or mistreat them, I want them to respect themselves enough to know when to walk away but also when to not take it anymore… when to cut ties… when to choose better.

But really, our daughters are the future and if we can make these girls see that they can be ANYTHING they want to be.. that they can be powerful and humble at the same time… that they are resilient beyond measure… that they will overcome challenges but should do so with GRACE… then there’s no limit to how wonderful they will be.

Let’s always push them to be better… and always lift them up with a mindset of self-confidence and independence.

Xoxo,

MK

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Motherhood Isn’t Always About the Kids

I am 34 years old and have 4 kids, 2 step kids, and one angel baby, all ranging from 18 years to 10 months old. My motherhood journey has been just that. A journey. A crazy, messy, beautiful, roller coaster ride of a journey.

I often think about my 20 year old self about to give birth for the first time. I remember that day of the ultrasound. I went to the appointment by myself and wore all pink because I knew I would never be able to handle a boy. I even wore pink socks and underwear. It HAD to be a girl. Because Lord knows I would absolutely DIE if it was a boy. Luckily for me, she was a beautiful 7 lb. baby girl. And so was my next baby three years later. (On the same day I might add!)

I look back and think about how young and naive I was as a mom of two little girls. I loved them and would do anything for them but looking back, that life was about me. My problems. My struggling marriage. My domestic abuse story. My messy divorce. My issues. And they were just along for the ride. My ride.

Now as a mom of six, this LIFE is about them. But this journey, this journey is still about me.

I have had to “find myself” with each baby, each wrong turn, each mistake, each celebration, and each choice I’ve ever made. The one thing that’s stayed constant is that I’m a mama.

So, yes my motherhood journey has been just that. A journey. A journey of learning who I am with each one of my babies. I am definitely not that 19 year old girl with that unseen pregnant belly out of wedlock and scared to death of what was to come. Nor am I that 24 year old with two babes under four, fresh out of a divorce and oh so lost and lonely. Nor am I that stepmother who was desperately trying to make my new blended family work. I am all of that and here I am with two new kids, 13 years later… and guess what? They’re both BOYS. And I couldn’t be more smitten with them.

I feel like I’m in the middle zone now. That zone between what I once knew and what I know now. That period where I can change a diaper with my eyes closed but I also know the fragile depths of the teenage years. As I look ahead, I can only envision what my children will grow up to be. And as I’m in this moment, I can only try to shape that for them now with our own version of parenting. I’m just winging it like I always have, yet now it’s just with a little hindsight in my back pocket and I may or may not know myself a little better.

Motherhood isn’t always about the kids. Sometimes it’s about the mamas. The first time mamas who think they know what they’re doing and the second time mamas who still feel like they have no idea what they’re doing. Its about the mamas with no one else. It’s about the mamas overwhelmed by EVERYONE else. It’s about the mamas going through a divorce. It’s about the mamas rebuilding a life. It’s about the mamas just trying to get by. It’s about the mamas who are grieving. It’s about the mamas who haven’t held their children yet.

And it’s about the mamas who are still on the journey.

We love our kids but sometimes, every once in a while, amidst everything life throws our way, between every waking moment that we’re taking care of babies and feeding big kids, after the laundry is done and the dishes are washed, after mama has taken care of everything else…. we have to remind ourselves that this journey is still about mama.

Xoxo,

MK

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Dollar Tree Spring Decor

This is a budget friendly post about how to take some cheap $1 items from Dollar Tree and make them look super cute in your home for spring!

First I bought speckled egg garland and since one strip was not very long I bought two and tied them together!

I added this new and improved garland to a cute $10 boxwood garland from Target to make the perfect spring garland for my mantle.

Next I took the larger eggs and some pale yellow Easter grass and filled a clear jar with them! I added some faux florals and made a cute spring vase!

Lastly, I took two $1 vases from Dollar Tree and added some smaller eggs from one string of garland which I just cut to let the eggs loose, added some eucalyptus stems and set them on my tv stand for another spring touch!

And that’s it! I have beautiful spring touches that match my neutral decor, all for under $20! Now if Spring would just hurry up and arrive!!

Xoxo,

MK

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Yummy Sausage and Potato Soup

Y’all. This soup was so delish! It was super easy with a little prep time!

First I chopped up some onions and carrots and sautéed them in 1 stick of butter in the pot I was going to cook the soup in.

Next I cooked a kielbasa sausage and one jimmy dean regular sausage in the skillet together.

Next I peeled and cut potatoes and added them in the pot. Then I added 1/4 cup flour to the pot and stirred. Then I added the cooked sausage and 1 1/2 boxes of chicken broth to the pot.

I boiled for 10 minutes then reduced heat to simmer for 30 minutes or until your veggies are ready to eat.

I added garlic salt, salt, pepper, paprika, and oregano to season my soup! We paired this soup with toasted garlic bread!

This was the first time I’ve made this kind of soup and it was so yummy! Scroll down to see the full recipe!

Enjoy!

Xoxo,

MK

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I CUT MY OWN HAIR! An easy diy hair how-to!

You read that right. And yes it’s as scary as it sounds! But it is actually super easy!

I’ve been cutting my own hair since the pandemic started! And now I’m just at the point where it’s just about convenience now with 4 kiddos here and being a full-time sahm and business owner!

You can do it too!

To trim my hair:

I separate my hair into 4 parts and put them in hair ties. I slide the hair tie all the way down to the tips leaving about two inches from the hair tie to the tips.

Then I decide how much I want to take off and cut. I do this to all 4 parts. Then I take one part out and the next part out and compare. Using my first section as a guide, I make sure it’s even. Then I use the second section as a guide for the third section and so on.

To cut bangs:

I gather the amount of hair I want to the front making a round hair part around my forehead. Then I hold it all together and cut at my nose.

Then I cut a little more. Finally, I turn the scissors vertical and just snip the ends randomly.

On the sides I make sure to tier it down to my face.

It doesn’t have to be hard but you just have to take the plunge!!!

Xoxo,

MK